A gentleman in his mid-30s reached out to me in deep despair. He was serving his notice period with no clarity on where his next opportunity would come from. Objectively, he was a talented and competent professional—someone who, by all logical means, shouldn’t have found himself in such an uncertain space. Yet, as I delved deeper into his story, a pattern emerged.
For the last five years, this cycle had repeated itself. This was his third job, and in the previous two, he had been asked to resign for reasons that seemingly had nothing to do with his performance:
- The first time, a management shift led to his entire team being dismissed.
- The second time, a department shutdown blindsided him despite the company showing no signs of instability.
- The third time, he made the conscious choice to leave due to a deep misalignment with the company’s values, leaving him with a strong sense of betrayal.
Three different scenarios, yet the underlying themes remained constant:
- Non-alignment with the organisation’s value system
- A recurring realisation that “all that glitters is not gold”
- A deep-seated inability to trust authority, leading to resentment
Uncovering the Root: A Wounded Inner Child
When we set up the constellation process, the deeper truth surfaced—this wasn’t just about his career; it was about an unhealed wound from his childhood.
A 7-year-old version of him came alive, grieving over an incident at school that had left him feeling:
- Unsafe in the presence of authority figures
- Betrayed by the belief that “authorities are always right”
- Punished for standing up for himself, with no support from his parents
His parents, instead of validating his experience, had asked him to “let it go” and “not make a big deal out of it.” In that moment, a subconscious belief took root:
“I will never be supported. I have to fight alone.”
How This Played Out in His Career
This unresolved childhood experience shaped the last five years of his professional life:
- Feeling unsafe whenever his workplace’s values didn’t align with his own, leading to discomfort and eventual exits.
- A trust deficit towards authority figures—the very people who provided his livelihood—trapping him in an internal conflict.
- A lingering sense of betrayal and resentment, making him unknowingly recreate situations where support was absent, leading to burnout and isolation in his roles.
The Breakthrough & Transformation
Once we identified these subconscious patterns, we worked through various processes to integrate and reconcile his 7-year-old inner child with his present self.
As a result, his energy shifted, and his reality followed suit:
✨ 10 days after our sessions, he received a job offer aligned with his interests.
✨ Within two months, the opportunity fully materialised, bringing him into a work environment that matched his value system.
✨ In the interim, he effortlessly attracted freelance opportunities that excited him.
✨ His new role came with a transparent approach, an aligned value system, and a supportive manager—breaking the old cycle for good.
Turning Wounds into Wisdom
Sometimes, a fragmented part of us resurfaces because we are finally ready to heal it. We have the maturity, the resources, and the strength to transcend the pain. As I always tell my clients—it’s time to turn your wounds into wisdom. When you choose to take the lead in your healing, new opportunities appear, unseen possibilities emerge, and you step forward without the emotional debris of the past, but with clarity and power.
Your Invitation to Break the Cycle
If this resonates with you, and you are committed to breaking free from your patterns, I invite you to my 1:1 coaching program for 3 months. Together, in a safe space, we will gently confront your wounded, fragmented parts—allowing them to reveal the wisdom they hold.
Limited slots available—Email me or DM on my Instagram account to book a consultation call and explore this life-changing journey.
Your transformation starts the moment you decide to say YES to yourself. 🚀
