Life can be tough at times. And there is no way one can alter the circumstances or situations that present themselves. But one can surely change or frame an adequate response towards them.
Responding is different from reacting. As the word suggests,‘re-action’, we are only acting out in a way which is more or else auto programmed in our subconscious mind. Most of the times, the premise of these reactions that occur is from fear, anger, ill-will or hatred.
The response, however, is something different. It is independent of the programming or a peculiar habit pattern of our mind. The response is more from free will and choice. The truth is that we can only give all that we have. If we have anger within us then, that is what we would choose to give from. Similarly if we have nothing but compassion and love within then, the response will be from the premise of these.
One of the most fundamental things that seem to have been misinterpreted is ‘Loving Yourself’. Loving yourself is not about being selfish or being self-centered. Loving Yourself simply means accepting all that you are and the way you are. Accepting yourself eliminates the need to be accepted by others and hence the actions are not governed by the fear of belongingness; the fear of being an outcast and the fear of loneliness. It is about not having any bias or regrets either for your own strengths or your weakness respectively. It is just about being inclusive of all aspects and owing them without disgrace, disrespect or criticism.
Unless there is acceptance there won’t be a willingness to change or choose without any bias. Everything will be delusional in itself. Change is the only constant thing and the only truth.
When you accept all aspects of yourself, you acknowledge this truth; this truth that is ever-changing from moment to moment. No two moments are the same. And to experience this truth, it all starts with loving yourself, the way you are and in the ‘Now’. It is in this acceptance in the ‘Now’ that you will move forward in its true sense, detached from the past and peaceful about the future that unfolds.
Loving Yourself is one such powerful tool that can bring forth the truth of your existence and unleash the limitless potential that you are.
So, embrace yourself today and love yourself enough, have a healthy self-esteem and self-worth and go on to radiate that love and compassion all around and for all the realms.
Love, light and grace!